November 9th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Well-trained marriage therapists are more than familiar with the work of of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done the most extensive research on marriage and what predicts divorce. They discovered four main predictors, termed the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. All relationships will deal with some of these behaviors, but if many of them are consistently present,
November 6th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Thanksgiving and the winter holidays will soon be upon us. Surviving the holiday season while going through a divorce, navigating life post-divorce, and/or co-parenting can be daunting. Here are a few tips to keep the holiday season bright.
- Don’t Over plan
Try to keep your holiday plans simple and low key. You will thank yourself later!
October 30th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Think of the other parent as your business partner
““Parents need to communicate as co-parents. Think of being a co-parent like being a business partner. This will take emotion out of the equation,” says Garon. She suggests that parents agree to communicate once a week and always away from the child. They should agree ahead of time about the topics of the conversation and keep their focus on what is going to help their child be successful in school.
October 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Divorce is often painful for everyone involved. Children often feel caught in the middle, and the stress can affect their performance in school. So how do you set your kids up for success as you navigate this lifestyle shift? Experts say that “with good communication, effective planning, heightened awareness of problems that might arise, and time to iron out the difficulties,
October 23rd, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
What’s the trick to making Halloween memories with your family when you’re divorced? It doesn’t have to be hard to make the holiday a treat! Remember, this holiday is about your kids, not you and your ex. Here are some tips to help keep the peace and make a happy Halloween a reality.
Plan. Always plan ahead and communicate with your ex when it comes to holidays.
October 13th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Lay the Groundwork: Your child may not be involved in sports just yet but it’s important to consider extracurricular activities that may come in the not so distant future during your divorce negotiations. “Talk to your divorce lawyer about how to factor in these kinds of expenses. In your settlement talks, you might consider addressing such issues as: how will you split payment for lessons (any kinds of lessons: from art to music to sports)?