December 19th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
It is important to think carefully about what you will say and how what you say may affect your children. These guidelines can help you determine just what is appropriate.
In general, younger children need less detail and will do better with a simple explanation, while older kids may need more information. 1
December 14th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Children often experience divorce as an intense loss—“the loss of a parent, the loss of the family unit, or simply the loss of the life they knew. You can help your children grieve their loss and adjust to new circumstances by helping them express their emotions.” 1
Encourage your children to share their feelings and be sure to actively listen to what they say.
November 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Many people find it difficult to cohabitate during separation. Emotions are typically running high and it is common for one or both spouses to be feeling angry and hostile toward the other. Different factors come into play in determining whether one party should move out of the home. Both parties have equal right to occupancy. Neither party has the legal right to kick the other out,
November 15th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Mediation is an option when one or both parties are concerned with privacy during divorce. In divorce mediation, there are:
- No public court hearings;
- No depositions;
- No submissions of evidence;
- No courtroom testimony;
- No discovery.
To further maintain privacy, in mediation, we can file your divorce documents in a different county so nothing is filed with your local court.
November 10th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
You’ve been awarded child support, spousal support or alimony. After your divorce is final, it is up to your ex to make timely payments. But things don’t always go as planned. Your ex may begin to miss payments because they are angry about the divorce, experiencing financial hardship, or being pressured by a new partner not to make the payments.
November 9th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Well-trained marriage therapists are more than familiar with the work of of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done the most extensive research on marriage and what predicts divorce. They discovered four main predictors, termed the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. All relationships will deal with some of these behaviors, but if many of them are consistently present,