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When, Where, and How to Deliver Your Divorce Script to Your Children

August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?

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Four Steps to Getting A Divorce

August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:

1. Back Off From Social Media

This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.

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Scripting the News of Your Divorce for Your Children

August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.

Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.

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What Makes A Couple Ideal Candidates for Mediation?

July 31st, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

I strongly believe a divorcing couple should always consider the possibility of using mediation so they can make their own decisions about their divorce– instead of leaving it up to two attorneys and a judge.

So who can mediate?

Nearly any couple of spouses can mediate if they are civil enough to one another that they can tolerate sitting in the same room,

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How to Choose a Mediator

July 23rd, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

I have six recommendations for couples who are looking for a mediator.

  1. Ask about their training and if they are court-approved mediators.
  2. Ask about the number of meditations they’ve successfully completed.
  3. Interview more than one mediator and see who you feel is knowledgeable, keeps the playing field level and you feel comfortable talking to and is not judgmental.

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5 Ways to Get Divorced

July 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

While divorce is never an anticipated outcome when couples join together in marriage, it continues to be a likely outcome. In the US, a recent breakdown of divorce statistics remains sobering:

  • 41% of first marriages end in divorce
  • 60% of second marriages end in divorce
  • 73% of third marriages end in divorce

Couples who are ending their marital relationship will most commonly find themselves focused upon three major concerns: the children,

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