August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?
August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.
Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.
December 26th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
This is an area where it is important to tread softly and prepare ahead of time. You can make it much easier on yourself and your children by coming up with a well thought out plan of what to say. You also need to decide if one spouse will sit down with the kids or if you can sit down together and speak to them.
December 19th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
It is important to think carefully about what you will say and how what you say may affect your children. These guidelines can help you determine just what is appropriate.
In general, younger children need less detail and will do better with a simple explanation, while older kids may need more information. 1
December 14th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Children often experience divorce as an intense loss—“the loss of a parent, the loss of the family unit, or simply the loss of the life they knew. You can help your children grieve their loss and adjust to new circumstances by helping them express their emotions.” 1
Encourage your children to share their feelings and be sure to actively listen to what they say.
October 30th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Think of the other parent as your business partner
““Parents need to communicate as co-parents. Think of being a co-parent like being a business partner. This will take emotion out of the equation,” says Garon. She suggests that parents agree to communicate once a week and always away from the child. They should agree ahead of time about the topics of the conversation and keep their focus on what is going to help their child be successful in school.