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The Imperative of Self-Care for Divorcing Parents: Arranging Social Options During Holidays

October 16th, 2019 by mjp-admin

A client of mine from some years ago, Mrs. X, chose a proactive stance in tackling her first Thanksgiving holiday alone after her divorce. Determined to not simmer in a sulk and drown herself in solitude with a bottle of dry Chardonnay, she chose to serve the impoverished instead.  Ironically, by nourishing the needy in the St. Louis community with a holiday meal,

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When, Where, and How to Deliver Your Divorce Script to Your Children

August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?

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Four Steps to Getting A Divorce

August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:

1. Back Off From Social Media

This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.

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Scripting the News of Your Divorce for Your Children

August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.

Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.

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4 Tell-Tale Signs Marriage Therapists Use to Predict Divorce

November 9th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Well-trained marriage therapists are more than familiar with the work of of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done the most extensive research on marriage and what predicts divorce. They discovered four main predictors, termed the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. All relationships will deal with some of these behaviors, but if many of them are consistently present,

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5 Ways to Keep Divorce Costs Down

October 5th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

There’s no question, divorce is expensive. Splitting your assets and paying attorneys fees can make you feel weak in the knees. The following list offers options to help curb some of those painful divorce expenditures and make you feel more in control.

  1. Pay attention to your spending. Keep a detailed log tracking how money is being spent each month.

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