August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:
1. Back Off From Social Media
This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.
August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.
Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.
November 9th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Well-trained marriage therapists are more than familiar with the work of of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done the most extensive research on marriage and what predicts divorce. They discovered four main predictors, termed the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. All relationships will deal with some of these behaviors, but if many of them are consistently present,
October 5th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
There’s no question, divorce is expensive. Splitting your assets and paying attorneys fees can make you feel weak in the knees. The following list offers options to help curb some of those painful divorce expenditures and make you feel more in control.
- Pay attention to your spending. Keep a detailed log tracking how money is being spent each month.
September 22nd, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Imagine how your life will change for better and for worse. Work out in your mind what some of the logistics might be when you and your spouse begin to live apart. Things like where might you live, who will take the kids to school and help with homework. If you’re mentally prepared for these changes, the transition can be much more manageable.