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Beware of Magical Thinking in Divorce

November 12th, 2019 by mjp-admin

Many people who come to see me seem to think one or all of the following myths about divorce:

  1. Divorce is going to be the answer to all my problems.
  2. Divorce will cost me money and be an unpleasant process, but after it’s final, I will be just fine and so will the kids.

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The Imperative of Self-Care for Divorcing Parents: Arranging Social Options During Holidays

October 16th, 2019 by mjp-admin

A client of mine from some years ago, Mrs. X, chose a proactive stance in tackling her first Thanksgiving holiday alone after her divorce. Determined to not simmer in a sulk and drown herself in solitude with a bottle of dry Chardonnay, she chose to serve the impoverished instead.  Ironically, by nourishing the needy in the St. Louis community with a holiday meal,

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Four Steps to Getting A Divorce

August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:

1. Back Off From Social Media

This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.

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How to Choose a Mediator

July 23rd, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

I have six recommendations for couples who are looking for a mediator.

  1. Ask about their training and if they are court-approved mediators.
  2. Ask about the number of meditations they’ve successfully completed.
  3. Interview more than one mediator and see who you feel is knowledgeable, keeps the playing field level and you feel comfortable talking to and is not judgmental.

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5 Ways to Get Divorced

July 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

While divorce is never an anticipated outcome when couples join together in marriage, it continues to be a likely outcome. In the US, a recent breakdown of divorce statistics remains sobering:

  • 41% of first marriages end in divorce
  • 60% of second marriages end in divorce
  • 73% of third marriages end in divorce

Couples who are ending their marital relationship will most commonly find themselves focused upon three major concerns: the children,

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My Spouse and I are Filing for Divorce. Can I Kick Him/Her Out?

November 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Many people find it difficult to cohabitate during separation. Emotions are typically running high and it is common for one or both spouses to be feeling angry and hostile toward the other. Different factors come into play in determining whether one party should move out of the home. Both parties have equal right to occupancy. Neither party has the legal right to kick the other out,

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