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Beware of Magical Thinking in Divorce

November 12th, 2019 by mjp-admin

Many people who come to see me seem to think one or all of the following myths about divorce:

  1. Divorce is going to be the answer to all my problems.
  2. Divorce will cost me money and be an unpleasant process, but after it’s final, I will be just fine and so will the kids.

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The Imperative of Self-Care for Divorcing Parents: Arranging Social Options During Holidays

October 16th, 2019 by mjp-admin

A client of mine from some years ago, Mrs. X, chose a proactive stance in tackling her first Thanksgiving holiday alone after her divorce. Determined to not simmer in a sulk and drown herself in solitude with a bottle of dry Chardonnay, she chose to serve the impoverished instead.  Ironically, by nourishing the needy in the St. Louis community with a holiday meal,

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Four Steps to Getting A Divorce

August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:

1. Back Off From Social Media

This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.

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How do I Keep my Divorce Private?

November 15th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Mediation is an option when one or both parties are concerned with privacy during divorce. In divorce mediation, there are:

  • No public court hearings;
  • No depositions;
  • No submissions of evidence;
  • No courtroom testimony;
  • No discovery.

To further maintain privacy, in mediation, we can file your divorce documents in a different county so nothing is filed with your local court.

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Planning Ahead for Extracurricular Activities

October 13th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Lay the Groundwork: Your child may not be involved in sports just yet but it’s important to consider extracurricular activities that may come in the not so distant future during your divorce negotiations. “Talk to your divorce lawyer about how to factor in these kinds of expenses. In your settlement talks, you might consider addressing such issues as: how will you split payment for lessons (any kinds of lessons: from art to music to sports)?

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5 Ways to Keep Divorce Costs Down

October 5th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

There’s no question, divorce is expensive. Splitting your assets and paying attorneys fees can make you feel weak in the knees. The following list offers options to help curb some of those painful divorce expenditures and make you feel more in control.

  1. Pay attention to your spending. Keep a detailed log tracking how money is being spent each month.

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