October 16th, 2019 by mjp-admin
A client of mine from some years ago, Mrs. X, chose a proactive stance in tackling her first Thanksgiving holiday alone after her divorce. Determined to not simmer in a sulk and drown herself in solitude with a bottle of dry Chardonnay, she chose to serve the impoverished instead. Ironically, by nourishing the needy in the St. Louis community with a holiday meal,
September 26th, 2019 by mjp-admin
Family holidays and get-togethers are often a catalyst for divorcing parents to bring unnecessary personal distress upon themselves, each other, and, ultimately, their children. Fortunately, the counter-defense to such a consequence is rather simple: the priority of healthy choices in self-care.
A Story From My Files About the Need for Self-Care
Some years ago, I was representing a woman (let’s call her Mrs.
August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?
December 26th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
This is an area where it is important to tread softly and prepare ahead of time. You can make it much easier on yourself and your children by coming up with a well thought out plan of what to say. You also need to decide if one spouse will sit down with the kids or if you can sit down together and speak to them.
November 10th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
You’ve been awarded child support, spousal support or alimony. After your divorce is final, it is up to your ex to make timely payments. But things don’t always go as planned. Your ex may begin to miss payments because they are angry about the divorce, experiencing financial hardship, or being pressured by a new partner not to make the payments.
October 12th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
It can be tempting to vent about your ex on social media, but is it a wise decision? Before you open up Facebook, be sure to consider the possible ramifications for what you may be about to say. “Divorce lawyers and paid investigators are very efficient at utilizing every tool at their disposal to provide damaging information in order to help their client.