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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

September 12th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Establish boundaries

And stick to your guns! You can still be courteous and make your limits known (and enforce them!) Narcissists don’t like other people creating boundaries for them but it’s necessary to show your children that they can deal with them just like anyone else. Be patient, hold your ground, and know that you’re setting an example for your kids.


While communication is often key to successful co-parenting after divorce, communication with a narcissist can be a different story. It’s important to not feed into any drama and keep communication clear and minimal. Don’t give them any ammunition. Communicating through email or text rather than on the phone allows you a bit of time to gather your thoughts as well as a paper trail. Stick to the facts and try to leave your emotions out of it.

Have a Guardian ad Litem appointed for your child

If you are having a custody dispute (more common when your ex-spouse is a narcissist), you can have a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) appointed for your child.  A GAL (GAL) looks out for your child’s interests while you are involved in the court system.  A GAL acts as an advocate and support person. They can be requested by your attorney, and are appointed by a judge.