School Success for Children of Divorce Part I
October 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Divorce is often painful for everyone involved. Children often feel caught in the middle, and the stress can affect their performance in school. So how do you set your kids up for success as you navigate this lifestyle shift? Experts say that “with good communication, effective planning, heightened awareness of problems that might arise, and time to iron out the difficulties, families can emerge with positive, supportive relationships and kids can be successful in school, too.” (https://www.greatschools.org/gk/articles/kids-divorce-and-school-success/)
Keep the focus on your child.
““When there’s a divorce, it can feel like your whole world is crashing in,” says Mary Lynn Crow, a licensed clinical psychologist and professor of education at the University of Texas at Arlington. She sees a tendency for divorced parents to focus on survival first because of the intense turmoil and fears that a divorce can cause. “But maintaining support for the child,” she adds, “gives parents something positive to focus on. Sometimes that can help to ease the strain of divorce as well as benefit the child.”” (https://www.greatschools.org/gk/articles/kids-divorce-and-school-success/)
Parents can continue to co-parent and communicate even when living their own separate lives. Much of the communication between ex’s is logistical: keeping in the loop on homework assignments, permission slips, sports, that sort of thing. At first this may seem daunting but things really will get easier and improve over time.
Consistency is key. Keep the same rules at both households. Be supportive of your kids and make sure they know that you’ll always be there when you need them.