September 26th, 2019 by mjp-admin
Through divorce, your ultimate focus is to not allow your children to become the real causalities. If children feel compelled through the immaturity of their divorcing parents to either choose a side or are forced to feel protective of one parent over the other, then the responsibility for the children’s heightened current distress and even potential future trauma falls solely upon the parents themselves.
September 5th, 2019 by mjp-admin
Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions.
Reactions Are Unique to Each Child
Much will depend upon the age,
August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?
August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.
Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.
December 26th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
This is an area where it is important to tread softly and prepare ahead of time. You can make it much easier on yourself and your children by coming up with a well thought out plan of what to say. You also need to decide if one spouse will sit down with the kids or if you can sit down together and speak to them.
October 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Divorce is often painful for everyone involved. Children often feel caught in the middle, and the stress can affect their performance in school. So how do you set your kids up for success as you navigate this lifestyle shift? Experts say that “with good communication, effective planning, heightened awareness of problems that might arise, and time to iron out the difficulties,