October 16th, 2019 by mjp-admin
A client of mine from some years ago, Mrs. X, chose a proactive stance in tackling her first Thanksgiving holiday alone after her divorce. Determined to not simmer in a sulk and drown herself in solitude with a bottle of dry Chardonnay, she chose to serve the impoverished instead. Ironically, by nourishing the needy in the St. Louis community with a holiday meal,
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September 26th, 2019 by mjp-admin
Family holidays and get-togethers are often a catalyst for divorcing parents to bring unnecessary personal distress upon themselves, each other, and, ultimately, their children. Fortunately, the counter-defense to such a consequence is rather simple: the priority of healthy choices in self-care.

A Story From My Files About the Need for Self-Care
Some years ago, I was representing a woman (let’s call her Mrs.
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Posted in Dating after divorce, Emotional Support, Extracurricular Activities, Men & Divorce, Moving Forward, Organization, Post Divorce, Self-Care, Transformation, Women & Divorce |
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November 10th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
You’ve been awarded child support, spousal support or alimony. After your divorce is final, it is up to your ex to make timely payments. But things don’t always go as planned. Your ex may begin to miss payments because they are angry about the divorce, experiencing financial hardship, or being pressured by a new partner not to make the payments.
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October 13th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Lay the Groundwork: Your child may not be involved in sports just yet but it’s important to consider extracurricular activities that may come in the not so distant future during your divorce negotiations. “Talk to your divorce lawyer about how to factor in these kinds of expenses. In your settlement talks, you might consider addressing such issues as: how will you split payment for lessons (any kinds of lessons: from art to music to sports)?
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Posted in Budget, Children, Children & Divorce, Co-Parenting, Communication, Custody Arrangements, Extracurricular Activities, Finances, Organization, Parenting Time, Post Divorce |
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October 12th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
It can be tempting to vent about your ex on social media, but is it a wise decision? Before you open up Facebook, be sure to consider the possible ramifications for what you may be about to say. “Divorce lawyers and paid investigators are very efficient at utilizing every tool at their disposal to provide damaging information in order to help their client.
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September 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
- Exercise self-care.Whether you’ve been neglecting your health or appearance, it’s time to set aside part of your day for you. For those of you who swear you don’t have even five minutes to spare, I assure you five minutes is all it takes to make a difference in your life. With five minutes you can meditate, do a few sit-ups in your living room,
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