School Success for Children of Divorce Part II
October 30th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Think of the other parent as your business partner
““Parents need to communicate as co-parents. Think of being a co-parent like being a business partner. This will take emotion out of the equation,” says Garon. She suggests that parents agree to communicate once a week and always away from the child. They should agree ahead of time about the topics of the conversation and keep their focus on what is going to help their child be successful in school. Keep the conversation short, respectful, and keep blaming and judging out of the dialogue.” (https://www.greatschools.org/gk/articles/kids-divorce-and-school-success/)
Focus on the needs of your child rather than who’s spending the most time with them. Remember that your ex may be your ex but they’re still your child’s parent. So when you talk about your child, talk to them as a capable parent, keeping your own biased feelings about them out of the picture.
Rethink the schedule as your child grows
As your child grows and takes on new activities and responsibilities, it’s important to revisit the schedule and be flexible. Keeping an open dialogue with your ex when it comes to things like sports and other extracurricular activities is essential to setting your child up for success.
Keep each other in the loop
Unless there is a legal reason not to, it’s a good idea to have both parents listed as emergency contacts on school forms. Be sure both parents are independently receiving communication from the school, including report cards and information about upcoming events.
Watch for warning signs
If your child is experiencing any sudden behavioral changes it could be a warning sign that the divorce is taking a toll. You know your child, if something seems off, it’s best to be proactive. Reading books about divorce and taking your child to divorce support groups or a counselor are great places to start.