September 5th, 2019 by mjp-admin
Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions.
Reactions Are Unique to Each Child
Much will depend upon the age,
August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?
August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:
1. Back Off From Social Media
This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.
August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.
Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.
July 31st, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
I strongly believe a divorcing couple should always consider the possibility of using mediation so they can make their own decisions about their divorce– instead of leaving it up to two attorneys and a judge.
So who can mediate?
Nearly any couple of spouses can mediate if they are civil enough to one another that they can tolerate sitting in the same room,
July 23rd, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
I have six recommendations for couples who are looking for a mediator.
- Ask about their training and if they are court-approved mediators.
- Ask about the number of meditations they’ve successfully completed.
- Interview more than one mediator and see who you feel is knowledgeable, keeps the playing field level and you feel comfortable talking to and is not judgmental.