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Scripting the News of Your Divorce for Your Children

August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.

Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.

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How Much Information Should I Give my Child about the Divorce?

December 19th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

It is important to think carefully about what you will say and how what you say may affect your children. These guidelines can help you determine just what is appropriate.

Be age-aware. 

In general, younger children need less detail and will do better with a simple explanation, while older kids may need more information. 1

 

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Allow Your Children to Grieve

December 14th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Children often experience divorce as an intense loss—“the loss of a parent, the loss of the family unit, or simply the loss of the life they knew. You can help your children grieve their loss and adjust to new circumstances by helping them express their emotions.” 1

Always Listen. 

Encourage your children to share their feelings and be sure to actively listen to what they say.

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School Success for Children of Divorce Part II

October 30th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Think of the other parent as your business partner

““Parents need to communicate as co-parents. Think of being a co-parent like being a business partner. This will take emotion out of the equation,” says Garon. She suggests that parents agree to communicate once a week and always away from the child. They should agree ahead of time about the topics of the conversation and keep their focus on what is going to help their child be successful in school.

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