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Four Steps to Getting A Divorce

August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:

1. Back Off From Social Media

This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.

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Scripting the News of Your Divorce for Your Children

August 9th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children.

Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led to this life-altering decision.

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How Do We Tell the Kids?

December 26th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

This is an area where it is important to tread softly and prepare ahead of time. You can make it much easier on yourself and your children by coming up with a well thought out plan of what to say. You also need to decide if one spouse will sit down with the kids or if you can sit down together and speak to them.

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How Much Information Should I Give my Child about the Divorce?

December 19th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

It is important to think carefully about what you will say and how what you say may affect your children. These guidelines can help you determine just what is appropriate.

Be age-aware. 

In general, younger children need less detail and will do better with a simple explanation, while older kids may need more information. 1

 

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Preparing for the Upcoming Holidays

November 6th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Thanksgiving and the winter holidays will soon be upon us. Surviving the holiday season while going through a divorce, navigating life post-divorce, and/or co-parenting can be daunting. Here are a few tips to keep the holiday season bright.

  1. Don’t Over plan

Try to keep your holiday plans simple and low key. You will thank yourself later!

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School Success for Children of Divorce Part II

October 30th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Think of the other parent as your business partner

““Parents need to communicate as co-parents. Think of being a co-parent like being a business partner. This will take emotion out of the equation,” says Garon. She suggests that parents agree to communicate once a week and always away from the child. They should agree ahead of time about the topics of the conversation and keep their focus on what is going to help their child be successful in school.

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