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What is Holiday Marital False Alarm Syndrome?

December 15th, 2019 by mjp-admin

The winter holidays are a notoriously troubling time for many families. Research demonstrates time and again that the excess of emotion, alcohol consumption, family arguments, spousal disputes, and situational depression escalate predictably during December.

Not to mention, the holidays are expensive. You are likely working with a compromised and tight budget but with high expectations for gift giving.

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3 Research Conclusions You Should Know About Divorce and Children

November 26th, 2019 by mjp-admin

Here is the truth you need to put front and center in your brain now and forever: 

Conflict between you and your spouse is poison for your child. 

Years of research across multiple disciplines have found this to be indisputable. But while conflict is poisonous to children, that isn’t to say divorce is poison.

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Beware of Magical Thinking in Divorce

November 12th, 2019 by mjp-admin

Many people who come to see me seem to think one or all of the following myths about divorce:

  1. Divorce is going to be the answer to all my problems.
  2. Divorce will cost me money and be an unpleasant process, but after it’s final, I will be just fine and so will the kids.

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Parents’ Best Behavioral Strategies In Co-Parenting A Divorce Decision

September 26th, 2019 by mjp-admin

The most crucial change any married couple can make in their most intimate relationship is the decision to divorce.

I have addressed how to create a script for the news of the divorce to help you most thoroughly and thoughtfully prepare in advance to reveal this devastating news to your children. Always remember that both parents share equal billing in the starring roles of this drama– and it’s important to know when,

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What to Anticipate After Delivering the News of Divorce to Your Children

September 5th, 2019 by mjp-admin

Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions.

Reactions Are Unique to Each Child

Much will depend upon the age,

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When, Where, and How to Deliver Your Divorce Script to Your Children

August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa

In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?

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