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How Do We Tell the Kids?

December 26th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

This is an area where it is important to tread softly and prepare ahead of time. You can make it much easier on yourself and your children by coming up with a well thought out plan of what to say. You also need to decide if one spouse will sit down with the kids or if you can sit down together and speak to them.

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How Much Information Should I Give my Child about the Divorce?

December 19th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

It is important to think carefully about what you will say and how what you say may affect your children. These guidelines can help you determine just what is appropriate.

Be age-aware. 

In general, younger children need less detail and will do better with a simple explanation, while older kids may need more information. 1

 

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Allow Your Children to Grieve

December 14th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Children often experience divorce as an intense loss—“the loss of a parent, the loss of the family unit, or simply the loss of the life they knew. You can help your children grieve their loss and adjust to new circumstances by helping them express their emotions.” 1

Always Listen. 

Encourage your children to share their feelings and be sure to actively listen to what they say.

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My Spouse and I are Filing for Divorce. Can I Kick Him/Her Out?

November 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Many people find it difficult to cohabitate during separation. Emotions are typically running high and it is common for one or both spouses to be feeling angry and hostile toward the other. Different factors come into play in determining whether one party should move out of the home. Both parties have equal right to occupancy. Neither party has the legal right to kick the other out,

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Preparing for the Upcoming Holidays

November 6th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Thanksgiving and the winter holidays will soon be upon us. Surviving the holiday season while going through a divorce, navigating life post-divorce, and/or co-parenting can be daunting. Here are a few tips to keep the holiday season bright.

  1. Don’t Over plan

Try to keep your holiday plans simple and low key. You will thank yourself later!

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School Success for Children of Divorce Part II

October 30th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Think of the other parent as your business partner

““Parents need to communicate as co-parents. Think of being a co-parent like being a business partner. This will take emotion out of the equation,” says Garon. She suggests that parents agree to communicate once a week and always away from the child. They should agree ahead of time about the topics of the conversation and keep their focus on what is going to help their child be successful in school.

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