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Maybe It’s Not a Marital Problem, Maybe It’s a Holiday Problem

January 10th, 2020 by mjp-admin

I’ve discussed Holiday Marital False Alarm Syndrome which predictably arises each year in December throughout many households. That’s why it does not come as a surprise each January when my calendar is quickly filled with divorce consultations. However, some couples are surprised by the outcome of their appointment with me.

By making a divorce mediation appointment and by honestly answering probing questions I pose to them,

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What is Holiday Marital False Alarm Syndrome?

December 15th, 2019 by mjp-admin

The winter holidays are a notoriously troubling time for many families. Research demonstrates time and again that the excess of emotion, alcohol consumption, family arguments, spousal disputes, and situational depression escalate predictably during December.

Not to mention, the holidays are expensive. You are likely working with a compromised and tight budget but with high expectations for gift giving.

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Creating New Traditions During and After the Divorce Process

December 9th, 2019 by mjp-admin

The holidays are rough for families going through divorce. They can bring up strong emotions including sadness and loneliness 

During and after divorce, old holiday traditions become obsolete and it becomes necessary to create new holiday memories. This creation of new traditions is particularly important for children because it will allow them to preserve positive relationships with their parents and create good memories in future years. 

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The Imperative of Self-Care for Divorcing Parents: Arranging Social Options During Holidays

October 16th, 2019 by mjp-admin

A client of mine from some years ago, Mrs. X, chose a proactive stance in tackling her first Thanksgiving holiday alone after her divorce. Determined to not simmer in a sulk and drown herself in solitude with a bottle of dry Chardonnay, she chose to serve the impoverished instead.  Ironically, by nourishing the needy in the St. Louis community with a holiday meal,

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Preparing for the Upcoming Holidays

November 6th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Thanksgiving and the winter holidays will soon be upon us. Surviving the holiday season while going through a divorce, navigating life post-divorce, and/or co-parenting can be daunting. Here are a few tips to keep the holiday season bright.

  1. Don’t Over plan

Try to keep your holiday plans simple and low key. You will thank yourself later!

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Trick or Treat Tips for Divorced Parents

October 23rd, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

What’s the trick to making Halloween memories with your family when you’re divorced? It doesn’t have to be hard to make the holiday a treat! Remember, this holiday is about your kids, not you and your ex. Here are some tips to help keep the peace and make a happy Halloween a reality.

Plan. Always plan ahead and communicate with your ex when it comes to holidays.

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