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Tips for a Post-Divorce Vacation

August 17th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

Communication is key. Don’t set yourself up for conflict. Let your ex know your plans and discuss the basics before you leave for your trip. Provide them with an itinerary. If you’re traveling with your kids, make sure you talk to your ex about when and how they’d like to be contacted while you’re away. Do they expect nightly phone calls or selfies from that awesome museum exhibit?

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DECEMBER’S FOCUS: DO YOU REALLY WANT A DIVORCE?

January 3rd, 2017 by Marta J. Papa

REMEMBER, IT’S THE HOLIDAY SEASON!

Part 8: Maybe It’s Not a Marital Problem…Maybe It’s a Holiday Problem

I have spent the month of December focusing upon the not-so-uncommon malaise of the Holiday False Alarm Syndrome, which predictably rears its ugly head each year in many households. And–not unlike Shakespeare’s Richard the III’s complaint of “now is the winter of our discontent”–many couples feel like war-weary veterans,

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DECEMBER’S FOCUS: DO YOU REALLY WANT A DIVORCE

December 29th, 2016 by Marta J. Papa

REMEMBER, IT’S THE HOLIDAY SEASON!

Part 7: Maybe It’s Not a Marital Problem…Maybe It’s a Holiday Problem

Now that Christmas and Hanukkah are behind us, and New Year’s Day 2017 is fast approaching, many couples who experience annual stress-related marital holiday issues will resume breathing more deeply and much easier once again. As the well-known predictors of too many expectations and not enough sleep subside (coupled with too much food and alcohol and not enough exercise and quiet meditation/prayer time),

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DECEMBER’S FOCUS: DO YOU REALLY WANT A DIVORCE?

December 22nd, 2016 by Marta J. Papa

REMEMBER, IT’S THE HOLIDAY SEASON!

Part 6: Maybe It’s Not a Marital Problem…Maybe It’s a Holiday Problem

I have been focusing upon the (sometimes) surprising questionnaire responses I receive from couples who come to me for a divorce consultation. My last blog revealed some examples of unforeseen marital issues that had come to light in some couples’ sessions.

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DECEMBER’S FOCUS: DO YOU REALLY WANT A DIVORCE?

December 20th, 2016 by Marta J. Papa

REMEMBER, IT’S THE HOLIDAY SEASON!

Part 5: Maybe It’s Not a Marital Problem…Maybe It’s a Holiday Problem

Last week I discussed the six questions I ask my clients to reflectively/thoughtfully respond to in writing, when I feel The Holiday Marital False Alarm Syndrome may be driving their relational discord. Perhaps most importantly, I request that neither spouse reveal his/her responses to the other in advance of our shared meeting together in my office.

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DECEMBER’S FOCUS: DO YOU REALLY WANT A DIVORCE?

December 19th, 2016 by Marta J. Papa

Part 4: Maybe It’s Not a Marital Problem…Maybe It’s a Holiday Problem

In my last blog posting, I listed the six questions I request clients to reflect upon and carefully respond to, when I feel they are not yet a divorce-ready couple (for a review, please refer to Part 3 of this December’s postings). Before a second appointment with me,

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