September 5th, 2019 by mjp-admin
Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions.
Reactions Are Unique to Each Child
Much will depend upon the age,
August 20th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? How?
August 15th, 2019 by Marta J. Papa
Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps:
1. Back Off From Social Media
This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal information on Facebook and other social media sites.
November 27th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Many people find it difficult to cohabitate during separation. Emotions are typically running high and it is common for one or both spouses to be feeling angry and hostile toward the other. Different factors come into play in determining whether one party should move out of the home. Both parties have equal right to occupancy. Neither party has the legal right to kick the other out,
November 15th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Mediation is an option when one or both parties are concerned with privacy during divorce. In divorce mediation, there are:
- No public court hearings;
- No depositions;
- No submissions of evidence;
- No courtroom testimony;
- No discovery.
To further maintain privacy, in mediation, we can file your divorce documents in a different county so nothing is filed with your local court.
November 9th, 2017 by Marta J. Papa
Well-trained marriage therapists are more than familiar with the work of of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done the most extensive research on marriage and what predicts divorce. They discovered four main predictors, termed the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. All relationships will deal with some of these behaviors, but if many of them are consistently present,